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I was walking to the 29 bus stop around 8am next to the Safeway in my neighborhood when a man holds his arms out in front of me expecting a hug. A complete stranger, he took up most of the side walk so I walked on the street to avoid him to get to the bus stop. While avoiding him he was yelling at me so loud saying, “Fuck you!” repeatedly. I had never experienced verbal harassment so close to me. I was scared that he was going to hurt me or something because he was about two feet away from me. I also didn’t know whether or not to pepper spray him because I was scared to make him even more angry; I was also angry with myself for not knowing what to do. While he was yelling at me his friend scared me and laughed at me, and when I saw an old man a couple feet away just watching, not even trying to help me, he just laughed at the whole situation. Thank god the 29 came, I hurried on so fast to get on.
Ever since then I don’t go to that bus stop. I was even harassed there before when a weird drunk man decided it was okay to touch my hair and walk behind me so close. I don’t know how to handle these kinds of situations personally. I’m upset because my independence was taken away because of how nervous I am to walk around in my neighborhood. Now I notice how men look at me when I walk or take the bus. Now whenever I go out in public I’m still nervous for what might happen and I get mad at myself for being scared to walk outside alone. Time isn’t even a factor anymore I suppose. I was only supposed to be careful at night because it was dark, but even in daylight harassment still takes place… So disappointing.
Even on the resources on hollaback say that harassment is limiting student’s ability to benefit from education. This is evidently true for me, because from my stories I was headed to school on both days. It’s a hassle to worry about how you’re going to get somewhere that’s supposed to benefit you.
We shouldn’t have to be dealing with these kinds of things. We shouldn’t have to limit our lives because people and men in particular can’t control themselves. I could say that a solution would be to take self-defense classes or be more aware, but that would still be giving into this idea that ‘boys will be boys.’ Well that’s bullshit and I shouldn’t have to work my life around what men will think of me.
The only real solution is to spread the word, just as this website is doing and hopefully people will understand that it has never been okay for men to say or do whatever they want to women. I encourage everyone to spread the word and teach the next generation that there are right and wrong ways to treat women.
As a waitress, I’m paid to be polite. I’ll take your order, pour your beer, bring your food, and bus your dishes, all with a big smile on my face.
But don’t you think for a second that I’ll keep my mouth shut next time. I don’t care if I make a scene anymore.
Offer to “carry those dishes for me” because “my ass is so fine” again, and you’ll watch me go from a kitten to a lioness in .2 seconds.
I refuse to take those comments as part of the job. No more excuses. Next time I speak up.
I’ve always been harassed. I hide my beauty everyday to try and deter men from looking at me or saying things to me. I have suppressed so much of my true beauty because of so many years of mistreating me this way. I want to feel free and like I have a voice and I’m not afraid to use it. I don’t want to be scared of men anymore. God bless you women for being what will help me heal. thank you for doing this for us. im so gratgrateful you are saying why I’ve been trying to say for years. loveyou
Some creeper crossing the street leering at my chest and asking my tits how their day was…And all I had said was hi. Guess I “deserved it”
Today a man took advantage of a crowded MUNI streetcar to grope a young woman. She was able to move away from him, and spent the rest of the trip separated from her friends in the back. I saw what happened and asked if she was ok (she looked shaken, but nodded yeah). I told him that he couldn’t treat women like that but he pretended not to hear me. So I took his picture and am sharing it now so others can look out for this predator.
crossing the street, passed a pair of guys crossing in the same direction. One says to my back, “I think you’re hot.” I didn’t respond at all, though I kept thinking for the next two blocks that I wish I knew what to say to educate him. He looked young.
I was walking to my apartment from my car and a man was going the opposite way on the sidewalk. Just as we passed he grabbed my breast. Then he ran away. I was silent for about 2 seconds and then this crazy primal voice rose up from deep inside and I screamed at the very top of my lungs: FUCK YOU!!! YOU DO NOT GRAB A WOMAN’S BREAST WHEN YOU PASS HER ON THE STREET YOU PIECE OF SHIT!
Then I called the police. Surprise surprise, they had just received a call from another woman with the same complaint and the same description. What a rapey asshole. I don’t think they caught him. But I hope he gets caught soon. After the encounter I was really shaky and angry. It’s so violating.
I have lost my trust in men!
As [of] today I was walking towards the bus stop and I walked by 2 men. And one of them said to me when I was walking
“Excuse me, Excuse me! neighbor! Why won’t you say hi to me when I say hi to you! Why are you so mean! You’re fucking beautiful!” I ignored him, that’s for sure, but inside me I was feeling so uncomfortable.
I was saying to myself ” Why men can’t have respect for a woman?”
And I ask myself this –
“Why men look woman as objects? I have lost trust in men!”
I don’t feel safe in my neighborhood. I don’t dress inappropriate. I’m just a young single woman being myself.
I ihollaback because street harassment is getting way out of hand!